Rising Above Beauty Standards
We live in a society based on media and photography touch ups. As a mom of three young girls I am very aware that young minds are sponges and so many things come into effect when determining their self esteem. I watch what I say, what I do and how I act towards my own body. I never make negative remarks about others looks and always make sure they know that beauty is made from within. I try to do my best when it comes to this subject because it is something that I feel is often looked over. As if the media wasn't brainstorming and negative enough for our girls, words coming from our peers dig deeper. I'm still young and ripe to the mom gig but I am constantly bettering myself for the sake of my girls. With all of that being said, it tares me wide open when my girls come to me a couple hours after their dance performance and say that there was a "mean girl" backstage and she told Remy that she "wasn't cute or pretty." It takes every ounce of me to take the high road instead of the lowest of lows. I obviously do my motherly job and instruct her otherwise. Reassure her that she is most certainly beautiful, and her heart is even more so. I'm proud of the fact that she wasn't necessarily bothered by that degrading comment, but more upset that the said "mean girl" made Raygan cry because she told on her for coming to her little sisters defense. I'm proud because that means that I'm doing my job on creating a beautiful little person that is confident and is aware that she is most definitely cute and pretty on the outside as well as the inside. I'm proud that her big sister stood up for her and told the "mean girl" she "shouldn't say things like that, and that wasn't kind" and I'm damn proud that they have each other.
As mothers we need to do our best in staying clear of the negative influences that work their way into our ever so busy lives and remember that beauty standards are held way too high. We need to rise above, and lift each other up. Compliment someone rather than bring them down. Promote kindness instead of selfishness, and more importantly work together.